When D first approached me to guest write for Material World, I was more than happy. And then she asked if I could write about a topic that was very personal and still relatively fresh. I was initially hesitant, unsure on whether I might share too much and in some ways, I still keep much of it private. I don’t publicly talk about the reasons for the breakup or about him because no matter what, everyone deserves respect and as my dear gal friend told me, she’s glad I walked away from it with dignity and grace. Some of you might recall that I wrote a little on this topic on my blog and have written to me saying how I have helped. I’m truly glad I have. So I figured, it won’t hurt to share to a broader audience and hopefully help more along the way.
Life is never smooth sailing in fact, it will never be. Just when things seem perfect, it will always throw you a curve-ball. But if you keep faith, hang in there and keep moving, someday somehow, that light at the end of the tunnel will get brighter. Someone once told me, that your attitude towards life is critical. When you stay positive (doesn’t mean you have to be annoyingly happy all the time and you can be sad and down at times), good things will follow your way. Just take it all in stride and I always try to remind myself on how there are many going through a similar tough situation as I am, if not worse.
I’ve received a couple of messages from friends who have graciously shared that they are struggling or going through a difficult break-up or divorce. I am sorry to hear – it’s like bittersweet writing the article because I discover the sadness some of my friends are experiencing. It doesn’t make me feel better but it makes me realize that I’m not alone and neither are you. And I guess sometimes, that’s what sharing does and in the process, helps others along the way.
When it comes to broken relationships, it’s not about ‘winning’ or who moves on quicker or finds a new partner faster. It’s never about that. Sure, you can have your bitchy moments griping to your friends – I do that too 😛 It’s almost therapeutic! But don’t get too caught up in that. Because if you don’t let that part go, you will just end up incredibly bitter and miserable. No matter what, no matter what the reasons for the separation, let it go and close that chapter. It won’t be easy, I won’t lie but things will get better, in good time. So hang in tight, hang in there, I’m with you.