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Let’s go for a picnic

February 8th, 2015 No Comments »

Some months back, I asked my girlfriends if they were up to do a picnic. I think it all started in Japan when E and I were talking about picnic baskets. Coincidentally, I got this realistic looking grass picnic mat and was dying to use it.

Lucky me was sent over a picnic basket from Heavens Bloom (they’re also doing a giveaway here ) and you might have seen the shout-out over at my Instagram . So while we couldn’t make it in time to have the picnic with the goodies, I did manage to invite two friends over for an impromptu movie night with a ‘picnic’ in my living room – it looked pretty legit with this grass mat 😛

The following week, I did have my picnic and I lugged the basket along and it was fun just watching the kids playing and we tried to grab bites here and there with the wind blowing and kids creating havoc around us. I think we were all picnic newbies and brought way too much food BUT, I think the company really counted and we all had fun and it (to me) was a big success 😛 More to come, it’s just a good excuse to get out and enjoy life a little at a slower pace.

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January 23rd, 2015 No Comments »

It’s way past my bedtime (breaking one of my goals..) but I feel like writing and it’s been a terribly long week. These pictures have made its rounds on my Instagram, but these days, I hardly use my camera since the iPhones function well for me and perhaps, I need to get a wifi card or upgrade my Sony to one that has that built in.

I’m trying to grapple with the fact that January is almost done and dusted, like seriously, where on earth has it gone to?!! It’s scary how fast time flies by and I seriously want it to please slow down. Perhaps when you are so insanely busy, time goes by more quickly, I can’t even recall how each day has gone by since the year started. Oh wait. I do. Tonsillitis then it was back into work and it’s been non-stop since. Like pulling late nights till almost midnight and lunch is a 10-15 minutes at the desk affair and I’m so brain dead but trying my best to keep up to my resolutions for this year and I am pleased to say that it’s been pretty much on track so far.

Much as I love work, it does get draining and I find myself looking forward to the weekend where I can veg and do nothing and in short, not use my brain. Unfortunately, the last few weekends have been work weekends so well, work isn’t as fun as everyone thinks -_- I seriously kowtow to full-time working moms. How challenging is it to rush into the office each day, stay focus at work so that they can leave on time or at a decent time to rush back home to spend time with the kid(s). Lunches and coffee breaks are a luxury and the majority of working moms that I know and work with – they hardly spend time on social media. For me, I’m literally brain fried, brain dead after a day’s work and to return home to be a parent and wife is so difficult. And for the men that share the same parenting responsibilities, it’s the same. So for that, big big respect.

So what have I been filling my spare time? The last two weeks is sleeping and doing household chores. I try to bake or cook on weekends mostly to destress and I’ve been doing yoga quite diligently, stretching and slotting in runs. Life gets busy as it always does and I really shouldn’t complain because if I look at the big picture, I’m lucky. Lucky to have work to pay my bills and mortgage and everything that I need to keep me comfortable. And lucky to be able to do the things that I want and spend time with people that I love. So next week will get better, it always gets better after a tough week (or two or three) and well, I do have a vacation to look forward to. Now is to plan for the next big one and hmm maybe one year end and then try to slot in Bali and Bangkok. Uh ambitious? Possible if I try and possible if I remain focus on what I want to achieve and push aside the distractions and keep moving forward.

TGIF! And for this week, seriously, THANK GAWD IT’S FRIDAY! :)

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Bali, third’s a charm

December 29th, 2014 No Comments »


I can never get tired of traveling to Bali. This was the third trip for the year and it was just as good as the other two. I always say that I can spend perhaps 5-7 days at Semiyak, another 2-3 at Uluwatu (Alila!) and maybe 1-2 days at Ubud. There is always so much to see, explore, eat and experience and the cafe culture is huge in Bali which I’m of course, a big fan of.

For the third trip to Bali, it was meant to happen earlier in September. But work beckoned and I found myself in Manila instead. I was lucky that my girlfriend  P managed to join me on the trip and her wonderful husband M took care of their little girl.

I’ll share more on the new food places that we checked out, for now, it’s about the hotel that we picked out. Or rather, P picked out.

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The rest of Tokes

December 26th, 2014 No Comments »

This trip was epic because of the company. We would meet in the late morning  depending on what time little C is ready and then wander out for breakfast. We had an itinerary but it was fine when we didn’t follow it (uh well most of it) and left out some here and there. So here’s sharing the photos with some brief captions and I think, a picture speaks a thousand words :)

P.S Photos of CC and I and individual shots of me were taken by E! She’s such an amazing photographer! She captures the moments nicely.

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Tokyo, Colette and more

December 18th, 2014 No Comments »



I never used to believe in fate. Not that much at least but now, I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Like if you didn’t get the house that you were yearning for (happened to me and my good friend) and a much better one came along. Like the breakups or the job that you wanted and didn’t get. Life works in strange ways and for whatever it is, it’s always for a good reason or two.

I have this space to thank for my job, the fabulous friends that I’ve met along the way (and kept) and then, the biggest one till date, a little burst of sunshine that bounced into my life. Unexpectedly. It wasn’t like I was looking for her and she certainly wasn’t looking for me. But then I met her mommy and then we became friends and then I met her and I found out that she loves chocolates, is OCD like me and has little quirks that well.. reminds me much of .. me.

I think we had a little connection right from the start and I still remember that breakfast morning where after a good 45 minutes of being absolutely shy, she came up to me, slid her tiny hand into mine and gestured for me to take her to look for books at the cafe. So we did. And the two of us set down in the corner, flipping through books and that moment when she threw her head back, laughing at whatever silly thing I was saying, I knew she was special, is special, and was going to be a special part of my life.

You can’t quite choose the people that you fall in love with, not even the little people. It’s like this. I love kids but many annoy me. Seriously. I don’t have patience with most, I find many spoiled but with her, I have unlimited amount of patience. I can’t even explain it. We had multiple Saturday breakfast dates, then it was school sports day and playtime at her house. I found myself waking up early on Saturdays to spend time with her. Chasing Peppa pigs, making little sacrifices. That’s what it is all about right? But it’s all worth it. I can’t explain the happiness when she recognizes me and runs up to me and gives me shy hugs and kisses and wants me to play with her. When E asked if I would like to join them on their trip in Tokyo I was overjoyed. It took a super long time to make it work – work schedules, asking for favors but it was all worth it.

So Tokyo happened and it was one of the best trips of my life. Tokyo in some ways has both bittersweet memories for me and I think C made it all right. We laughed, chased puddles, went hipperty hop down streets, played peekaboo games and all sorts of silly games and I got to know her better, saw her meltdowns and saw so many good sides of her that made my heart melt. For once it didn’t matter that I didn’t get to check out that store or eat at this restaurant because I was having so much fun with her. Isn’t it true that it is the company that matters most when you travel? And perhaps, E summed it up most in this touching post of hers.

So before the food posts of Tokyo floods this space and all the other updates that I have, I wanted the first after a hiatus to be about C. Because, sometimes, life and blogging isn’t just about trying to get the most number of hits, sponsorships, taking that perfect square to post it on Instagram, to get freebies but neglecting the ones around you in the process and I’ve seen that happening all around me. Sadly but true. But it is about remembering what matters, sharing what matters and some time down the road, I’ll re-read this post with a smile and reminisce on this special memory.

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Thursday evening

August 28th, 2014 No Comments »


Much as I am an obsessive planner that plans my schedules and has things (somewhat) planned into my calendar in advance, I do appreciate the spontaneous catch-ups. Brilliant Z came up with this fab mid-week ‘pick-me-up’ and by a stroke of luck, everyone’s schedules aligned so we just gathered at my place in our PJs ( 😛 promise promise! Next round it’ll be as such xo ), and over cheese, fruits, crackers, egg tarts, ice cream and tea, we yakked the evening away before pulling out our laptops to do what we had originally planned – online shop together. Isn’t that a fab idea? It was so fun but uh none of us landed up with any purchases so I suppose we aren’t such compulsive shopaholics after all!

When’s the next one babes?


August 27th, 2014 No Comments »

It’s hard not to spoil and pamper little ms sunshine. Much as I spoil her with snacks and toys, I try to spend quality time with her. While it took 3 adults to fix up the ‘greenhouse’ and loads of giggles when C stuck the stickers mostly upside down – well to be fair, it was the right way up from her angle, I think the most precious moment was seeing her get involved and smiling. I really do hope the seeds will sprout otherwise she might be disappointed. Sometimes, they say the best toys are the ones that don’t come with fancy electronics, may not cost much but can bring much joy to a child.

I’m already looking forward to seeing you again little C, I’ll look for more ‘mao mao’ biscuits and your shy hugs and mmmm-muak kisses.


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