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How to pick your life partner

March 2nd, 2014 No Comments »

There are all kinds of definition of marriages. Lately, it seems like getting married isn’t necessarily forever. It’s but you also think – it might be healthier for both the couple to separate and better for the kids (if any), then to spend the next 30-4 years unhappy and at some point, the cracks will show and take a toll.

When I look at friends who rush into getting married, I realize that sometimes, society plays a part. This article couldn’t have placed it more aptly and it’s definitely worth a share.

Originally found here and here.

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February 17th, 2013 No Comments »

While waiting to go out and listening to Bob Marley, here’s sharing my favorite quote(s) from the great singer. And also, this video that has been floating around cyberspace which mirrors what Bob Marley says- the incredibly romantic love story of Melissa and Jonathan and possibly one of the best looking couple?!


Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.

There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face.

In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end.

Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you. The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.

~ Bob Marley

You’ve got mail!

February 14th, 2013 2 Comments »


I don’t know about you, but I’ve never celebrated Valentine’s day. To me, everyday is Valentine’s Day as long as you’re with someone special.

This year, I decided to do things a little different. I bought a Sarah Jane template, printed copies out and painstakingly cut out each piece. Stuck two pieces together, wrote a personalized note and washi taped it up in different combinations. I then hand delivered or snail mailed each one to a special loved one. They say there are 3 hardest things to say – I love you, I’m sorry and thank you. I thanked every recipient for being a part of my life or making a difference in mine – I couldn’t send to everyone so it was to those that first came to my mind that I’d close contact with for the last 6 months. And that was it. It was simple but it came straight from my heart.

The biggest joy for me was when I started receiving smses as each received the mail and the words just made me smile.

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone and may the rest of the year be that extra special for you and not just today.

About dreams and marriage

September 6th, 2012 No Comments »


My oh my. I’m supposed to be frantically ordering and sending parcels (*ahem online shopping) but I’m getting all teary and reflective. Here’s another one to chew on. I hope all these posts aren’t too heavy for you 😛 But I’m not just all frou frou and air-headed 😛

Up is one of my favorite movie. I’ve watched it thrice and have cried all three times. Quite embarrassing as I was on the plane on one of the occasions. The article that I’m about the share reminded me of this movie. I don’t know why exactly, but it was the first thing that popped into my mind.

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Love is

September 5th, 2012 No Comments »


via Striking Truths

When you find someone special, never let them go. Because it’s hard to find someone whom you have a natural connection with. The kind when conversations can go on for hours, the ones where you complete each other’s sentences. Love is really not just about giving and receiving. It’s a constant work in progress.


May 28th, 2012 2 Comments »

The biggest mistake that couples make after dating for awhile is forgetting how to romance each other. It’s not just the guy that needs to do it but both parties. And everyone needs a little reminder every now and then. I’m a strong believer of date nights. Date nights are time alone between the couple – nope friends aren’t invited, it could be a movie, a nice dinner (without getting glued to the phone to check emails etc) and just spending time to bond.

Ours was waaay long overdue. And I mean, way long overdue! I couldn’t even recall the last time we spent time together that didn’t involve a group gathering with friends -_- So I insisted that we had to do one. It was a little last minute so no reservations were made and our first choice was an epic fail as the place was completely booked out. The good thing about living near Duxton is that there are lots of other options – as long as you know what sort of cuisine you fancy for that night.

We walked into Broth  and were lucky to get a table immediately. The fab service at Broth stood out almost immediately and lasted all the way till we said good-bye. It was really impressive! The young brood of staff were very attentive (glasses were refilled almost instantaneously the moment it was emptied), food was served promptly, we were asked if the food was okay and the manager even lowered the air conditioning because I was feeling cold! It was a very memorable dining experience.

While the food doesn’t come cheap, we were pleased with our orders. The pan fried foie gras with pineapple chutney and pomegranate glaze was our favorite for the night. The first time tasting foie gras with pineapple and pomegranate, I have to admit it was refreshing. The mains consisted of tender chunks of Kurobuta pork cheeks braised with mushrooms, bacon and potatoes and the catch of the day – sea bass on a bed of spinach, some really tasty mushrooms all soaked in a flavorful thin gravy.

My favorite part of the dinner was when the bill was served in a vintage hardcover book that was seriously so ingenious that I was contemplating pick-pocketing it home! I actually wouldn’t mind returning again, not too soon as like I’ve said before, it’s not the cheapest meal, but with such great service and good food, why not?

Hoping the next date night comes sooner than expected – the plan is to explore around our neighborhood of Duxton and Craig Road!

Bar Restaurant On The Hill (BROTH)
21 Duxton Hill
Singapore 089604
+(65) 6323-3353
Opens: 12-230pm Mon-Fri, 630-1030pm Mon-Sat. Closed on Sundays and for lunch on Public Holidays
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Three things

March 22nd, 2012 2 Comments »

3 things that make me happy this week –

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