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Hullo October

October 22nd, 2014 No Comments »

Some asked where have I been since this space has been rather quiet. I said I’ve been busy with work and travels (true)

That is part of the truth.

The other part?

Dancing. No kidding. I was twirling around in my living room the other day for no rhyme or reason. They say dance like no one is watching right?

Sleeping earlier. I try to sleep by 11pm. It’s a huge change but I’m trying and it doesn’t happen everyday (not tonight because I’m on leave tomorrow) but it’s getting better. More sleep means I can tackle the day better. Work has simply been grueling. I really value time after work (if there is any) and weekends.

Still cooking. Not as much as I would like to. But it’s better than nothing.

Spending time with the people that matter. Sometimes, there’s truly more to life than blogging, instagramming everything and things that take you away from the people around you. I’m seeing that happen more and more. My nephew Kieran gives the cutest kisses but incredulously naughty. Cc my little sunshine makes me really smile. So I get regular photos and videos from her Mom. And my little fur rug.. it’s been a rough year for her. A health scare and we almost lost her or thought she wouldn’t make it :( Then a recent accident and she’s now hobbling on threes. You see the promise of future in the kids in your life and the fragility of life in an aging dog, the passing on of the older generation and it puts things into perspective. Life is incredibly short.

Financial planning. Oh hey. I’m starting to think about my retirement and planning for it. I won’t be retiring for another good 30 years, but I’m starting to plan for it. Doing a stock check of my finances. When you are financially independent, you are responsible for your finances. It was such a good two hours odd spent. Uh how much do I earn? Eh, uh let me check. Spending? My CPF ecetera.

Running. And yoga. When I can. It’s easy to make excuses when I’m tired out from work. Truth be told, doing exercise makes me sharper at work, more energetic and better overall. Slowly, bit by bit. The good thing is that I’ve a new colleague who goes to the same yoga studio, similar like me in many ways. We’ve made a pact to push each other to make it for class once a week. So far, one successful class, another booked. A little progress is better than none.

Decluttering. Continuously doing it. Been donating stuff away and selling some here.

And still crazily obsessed over penguins and pandas. Sorry. That was random. I’ve been told, I’m very random 😉



“You can’t live life doing nothing more than looking towards the future because you’ll miss the only time that things actually matter or exist: the present. The present, the immediate moment is the only moment that you can actually live in. The rest is only an illusion.”


Enjoy the read. Original article from here

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When life kicks you, you let it kick you forward

September 4th, 2014 No Comments »

“I feel like I’ve zero control over getting cancer. But I have 100% control on how I will respond to dealing with cancer. When life kicks you, let it kick you forward. …I will, not, I’ll try.”

~Sandra Kay Yow, 8 Times national Coach of the year, inaugural Jimmy V ESPY for Perseverance 2007

Her chemotherapy was so intense, her fingernails fell out and the sores in her mouth made it hurt to even smile. Yet she continued to coach on the side and motivated her team. Her tenacity, determination and passion is truly inspiring. And such a powerful statement! How’s that for a Thursday pick-me-up? Things have been more than cray cray on this end so it’ll be quiet for a bit but I’ve so much to share so I hope to be back uh sooner than expected!

Weekend inspirations

January 10th, 2014 No Comments »

“It’s a tool for the heart. When you can touch someone’s heart, that’s limitless. Obsess the details. Success doesn’t come easy. Believe in yourself and you just need one person to believe in your dreams.”

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100 Acre Wood

January 5th, 2014 No Comments »

As a kid who grew up reading the classics such as Winnie the Pooh, Enid Blyton, Noddy and all the books that many kids these days, sadly have no clue about, I hold them close to my heart. I regretted selling off my collection of over 250 Enid Blyton books and all and should have kept a few of my favorites. A couple years back, I started re-collecting those hard-covers in the publishing dates that I read them from. Hey, the stories have changed and the covers don’t look as original..

One of my treasured collection is this set of four Winnie the Pooh classic collectors that was re-published in 1950! Yes! These books are more than 50 years old and luckily, I found them in pristine condition. It was this hole in the wall shop in the U.S and I wished wished wished that I had purchased more at that time! But these didn’t come cheap and I paid some good money for it.

So the other night, I was flipping through the books, randomly browsing and reading and seriously, they don’t make books like that anymore. Cloth bound, black and white sketches and the stories. Oh the stories. One of my absolute favorite quotes from Winnie the Pooh which holds a lot of meaning to me as well, is the one above – Sometimes, said Pooh, the smallest things take up the most room in your heart. Indeed they do. And I couldn’t help but the write down the rest of my favorite quotes by A.A. Milne Continue reading »

The Most Important Question of Your Life

November 15th, 2013 No Comments »

Every now and then, you’ll come across an article that makes complete sense and puts things into perspective. This one did. And I hope it will resonate with you the same way it did with me and perhaps, the next time before we wince or grumble, have a think – no pain, no gain. Life ain’t perfect so don’t just complain about the toughies but learn to learn from it and rough it out a little :) Happy weekend to all! I’m still down with viral flu – day 6 and counting, so I will be resting this weekend (and working, unfortunately but taking it in stride.)


Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a care-free, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.

Everybody wants that — it’s easy to want that.

If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything.

Everyone wants that. So what’s the point?

What’s more interesting to me is what pain do you want? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives end up.

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14 of the most powerful hot qualities people can have

October 8th, 2013 No Comments »

via the thought catalog

It’s all about being confident, real and believing in yourself.


1. A strong sense of self. An undeniably sound understanding of who they are and the confidence and charisma to express that without fear of what other people may sum it up to mean.

2. A physical appearance that’s more themselves than it is a syndicated version of some idealistic beauty that they saw somewhere, or that they were built to believe is what being attractive means. The most beautiful people are the ones who are more unapologetically themselves than they are a copy of someone else.

(Everyone has their own idea of ‘beauty’. Hence, the saying, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. So while it’s perfectly fine to strive to achieve a perfect body or what you deem to be perfect and desirable, ensure it’s because it is what you want and not what someone else wants. Do it for yourself.

3. Being unafraid to say what they think, but being able to express such opinions with social grace and the knowledge that their opinion is not the only one that is valid, or that matters.

(I love people who are open and honest. Upfront. Nothing bothers me most is when a person says one thing in front of you and another behind your back. It irks me to no end. There is nothing wrong expressing an opinion so long as you can beg to differ and don’t come across as arrogant and that your opinion is the only one that matters. Because, it is not.)

4. Being capable, not only of the little things, like how to drive stick or file taxes, but also of supporting themselves, leading healthy lives, communicating effectively, etc.

5. Having a genuinely healthy glow about them.

(Which comes about naturally from exercising).

6. A body that’s able. It’s not about a size or muscle mass or a number on the scale, it’s how people carry themselves, how they use their bodies to aide them in experiencing different things rather than seeing it as an enemy that debilitates them just by being as it is.

7. Being open to the possibilities. Understanding that their lives can be more than a summation of the principles and decisions they stick to. The best things tend to happen unexpectedly, and are often not even considered. To embrace them, you have to be open to their possibility.

(In all honesty, this is something that I’m still learning and working on..)

8. Having confidence in their decisions. Confident that they can deal with a situation if their decision turns out to be the wrong one. And thus…

9. Also having confidence in admitting when they are wrong. There is nothing I admire more than someone who can genuinely and wholeheartedly admit that they misjudged, or did something wrong, and can do so with the acknowledgment that they have learned from it, and that they owe it to themselves and to other people to be honest about it.

(Nothing is more attractive than someone who can admit that they are wrong, AND say that they are sorry about it, AND mean it.)

10. Frequently responding with some smart ass comebacks.

(100% agree! It’s always the witty ones that really get me 😉

11. An unmistakable presence that fills up a room. There are just some people who have that uncanny ability to bring a certain something to any social situation. It’s mesmerizing.

12. Having stories to tell, great, genuinely funny stories, that don’t drag on and can entertain a crowd, and a manner of telling them that’s remarkably unique.

13. A sense of humility. It’s the difference between an awesome person and a not-so-awesome person: how much they acknowledge said awesomeness as something to be used against people.

14. A sense of awareness. The recognition that they don’t know it all– and probably will never. The knowledge that there are concepts and social faux pas and ideologies and theories that they may very well not know about, and that their frame of mind is not the only reality that exists. Someone who is like this can be open to seeing inside your mind as well, and if there’s anything that’s hot, it’s someone who is attuned to your needs and wants and ideas as well as they are their own.

(There will always be greater and lesser people than yourself. Deal with it. I feel sorry for those that think that they are a know-it-all.)

Welcome to the grind

September 24th, 2013 No Comments »


Welcome to the grind.

Make sure this is what you want. Because the easy way out will always be there to wash you away.

I should play this every morning. When I can’t pull myself out of bed, when I get lazy. I have to say, this is one darn good ad. Bookmark it. Save it. Use it to motivate you. Don’t say that I don’t share the good things :)

Speaking of good things, a new Pho place is hitting town :) P has been sharing snippets of it with the girls for awhile now and we keep asking, when? when? when? The day she told us that it was a go and a space had been found, we all cheered. So please ‘like’ the Facebook page and stay tune for more details to follow. I promise that this is the real, legit thing :) And I can’t wait to get ‘pho out’.

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