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I want

December 24th, 2014 No Comments »


All photos taken by the talented E

There are so many things that we ‘want’. The tangibles that actually don’t really matter much eventually. This article comes aptly in time for Christmas and it really struck a chord. Oh what’s up with me and being constantly emo! But it does and it does make sense especially when you’re old (er) like I am and it’s not all the material wants that really matter.

This week’s Christmas highlights were celebrating the nephew’s grand two (and fur rug’s grand 14), and looking forward to family time at lunch for Christmas. And also, a gift that arrived almost on the stroke of Christmas Eve – precious memories of Tokyo, forever remembered in 8 framed squares and a gorgeous picture of sunshine to remind me what Christmas (and life) is truly all about!

Merry Christmas everyone. Much love to all! xo

And, enjoy the read.

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Hullo October

October 22nd, 2014 No Comments »

Some asked where have I been since this space has been rather quiet. I said I’ve been busy with work and travels (true)

That is part of the truth.

The other part?

Dancing. No kidding. I was twirling around in my living room the other day for no rhyme or reason. They say dance like no one is watching right?

Sleeping earlier. I try to sleep by 11pm. It’s a huge change but I’m trying and it doesn’t happen everyday (not tonight because I’m on leave tomorrow) but it’s getting better. More sleep means I can tackle the day better. Work has simply been grueling. I really value time after work (if there is any) and weekends.

Still cooking. Not as much as I would like to. But it’s better than nothing.

Spending time with the people that matter. Sometimes, there’s truly more to life than blogging, instagramming everything and things that take you away from the people around you. I’m seeing that happen more and more. My nephew Kieran gives the cutest kisses but incredulously naughty. Cc my little sunshine makes me really smile. So I get regular photos and videos from her Mom. And my little fur rug.. it’s been a rough year for her. A health scare and we almost lost her or thought she wouldn’t make it :( Then a recent accident and she’s now hobbling on threes. You see the promise of future in the kids in your life and the fragility of life in an aging dog, the passing on of the older generation and it puts things into perspective. Life is incredibly short.

Financial planning. Oh hey. I’m starting to think about my retirement and planning for it. I won’t be retiring for another good 30 years, but I’m starting to plan for it. Doing a stock check of my finances. When you are financially independent, you are responsible for your finances. It was such a good two hours odd spent. Uh how much do I earn? Eh, uh let me check. Spending? My CPF ecetera.

Running. And yoga. When I can. It’s easy to make excuses when I’m tired out from work. Truth be told, doing exercise makes me sharper at work, more energetic and better overall. Slowly, bit by bit. The good thing is that I’ve a new colleague who goes to the same yoga studio, similar like me in many ways. We’ve made a pact to push each other to make it for class once a week. So far, one successful class, another booked. A little progress is better than none.

Decluttering. Continuously doing it. Been donating stuff away and selling some here.

And still crazily obsessed over penguins and pandas. Sorry. That was random. I’ve been told, I’m very random 😉



“You can’t live life doing nothing more than looking towards the future because you’ll miss the only time that things actually matter or exist: the present. The present, the immediate moment is the only moment that you can actually live in. The rest is only an illusion.”


Enjoy the read. Original article from here

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August 22nd, 2014 No Comments »

Great minds think alike and it’s also another reason why I get along fabulously well with P. We both love reading to enrich ourselves and we look up to a lot of power women in the corporate world. I posted this fabulous article via Fast Company on FB and P actually posted it on her blog too. :) Truly, great minds think alike.

I read to be inspired. I believe that no one person can be a know-it-all. Every day is almost a learning experience for me. When I’m free, I enjoy reading articles on Fast Company, Huffington Post, NYTimes, Forbes, just to state a few. There are so many great articles out there and I can’t emphasize how compelling one interview, one video can be. I have a number of women role models that I look up to – Jenny Lyons of JCrew, Natalie Massanet of Net-A-Porter, Jeanne Jackson of Nike, and recently, Angela Ahrendts of Apple. Ahrendts recently joined Apple after being the CEO at Burberry for 7-8 years. She is one of Forbes’ 50 most influential women, one of the highest paid CEO in U.K, one of London’s most influential powerful women. Google her and her resume is mind-blowing. She is one helluva presenter and do watch the two videos that I’ve posted here. Amazing insights that I use at my own work actually and she makes Burberry sexier and more desirable than I’ve thought it to be.

And really, it’s all about storytelling. That’s what sets the best brands apart from the rest. :)

Magazine reads

February 23rd, 2014 No Comments »

If there is ONE single thing that I would love to do more, it is to read more. Catch up on my magazine reads and endless digital books. But really, I have only myself to blame. I can’t seem to ‘disconnect’ from the www nor social media. It’s so bad. I’m contemplating taking a week away at a place where connectivity is hard to get. I remember visiting Crater Lake last year and we were way out in the boonies. Wifi sucked and there was no reception. So we played card games at night. I need one of those once again..

The only time that I’m able to catch up, is enroute to the U.S on a long haul flight. But it’s always a toss up between that, watching movies and sleeping. Sadly, the last option always happens. And for those that have travelled with me, I’m infamous for sleeping for the entire flight..

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Before you were mommy

February 13th, 2014 No Comments »

Dedicated to all my mommy friends – don’t just morph into ‘mama’ and ‘papa’. Remember why you entered marriage in the first place, and keep that passion alive in your marriage.. Partner first, before kids. I’ve had countless discussions with my friends on this and if you understand where I am coming from, you will get this. :)


before you were Mommy, you were his. Men, before you were Daddy, you were hers. Remember this. Hold on to this. Keep these words precious to you.. The husband that once completed your heart will be just one more person who needs you. The charming things that you fell for will go unnoticed. The daily grind will become expected… Remember each other. Remember the two that made the family.

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Afterglobe debut

January 25th, 2014 No Comments »

Travel enthusiasts, fans of reads such as Kinfolk, Cereal, Spoon, Darling.., a new travel magazine has launched here in Singapore – Afterglobe ~ Beyond Singapore and BackThe pilot issue is a solid compilation consisting of 160 quality printed matte pages. I am holding a copy in my hand as I script out this entry and the smell of freshly printed paper is amazing. This is a locally produced magazine, by Singaporeans (though conceptualized in Portland so it’s extra special to me!), for Singaporeans and everyone elsewhere and it’s truly ‘local pride’ right here.

I’m proud and honored to be part of this inaugural issue, yes! The picture above is a snapshot of my article (on page 100). Heartfelt thanks to the Afterglobe team for inviting me to be part of this fantastic initiative and writing the piece brought back many fond memories.

Me aside, when A dropped off the copies for me, I was initially excited and nervous at seeing my published article then blown away by the rest of the content of it. Afterglobe features not only local writing but also, poetry, art and illustrations, photography, short excerpts, fiction and recipes. You won’t find the usual top 5 popular travel spots but instead, the off-beaten tracks, the undiscovered cities and the hidden gems that you won’t hear about in travel books and sites. Each page is printed on quality matte paper, each photograph has a wonderful vintage feel to it and I almost want to classify it as a ‘coffee-table book’ versus just a standard magazine. Something that you would keep around where the reads won’t expire.

I passed around my copy of Afterglobe around the office and everyone was impressed at the quality and content and were asking for details on its availability for purchase. As someone mentioned, “This is such a great mag! I hope it’ll stay around.’ So please do support this local travel magazine! It will be released biannually grab a copy before it runs out. And for my friends that intend to buy a copy to support me, thanks in advance 😛


Afterglobe is available for purchase online via the Afterglobe online store at USD22 and free shipping is provided within Singapore. For international orders, a flat rate will be charged.

It can also be purchased at the following stores at SGD28

Artistry – 17 Jalan Pinang, Singapore 199149
Books Actually – No. 9 Yong Siak Street, Singapore 168645

Glow Deli – 24 Keong Saik Road, Singapore 089131
Peek – 36 Armenian Street, Singapore 179934
The Redundant Shop – 5 Everton Park, #01-22, Singapore 080005

Afterglobe invited me to contribute to the inaugural issue and kindly gifted me with a contributor’s copy however, all opinions are solely my own.

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Drink up!

November 4th, 2013 4 Comments »

My mama always tell me to drink more water. That I don’t hydrate enough. True that.

I actually love drinking water but I just don’t drink enough of it. I don’t take soft drinks or anything flavored, I do drink tea (love my teas but unsweetened and without milk), so it’s a good habit. I’ve been aiming to drink at least a 1-1.5 litres daily which I honestly thought was sufficient but apparently not!

Check out this article – I’m completely blown away by the results. Her skin! And the weight loss?! I’m ignoring all the nay-sayers saying it’s photo-shopped yada yada because seriously, this wasn’t for an ad for some mineral water – it’s just about drinking water i.e. hydrating sufficiently (sorry, I hate negativity and whiners). So the magic number is THREE. It’ll likely take awhile to get to drinking 3 full litres but let’s try.

I’ve read in another article that drinking when you’re thirsty isn’t ideal as it only means that you’re already dehydrated hence, the feeling of thirst. With the level of physical activities that I engage in, it only means that my system requires a larger intake of water so the verdict is clear. I need to drink more water. My massage therapist used to nag at me and tell me that I’ve water retention in my legs and I shouldn’t drink water after 8pm -_-. I keep telling him that I’ve fat calves really.. there are some old Chinese practices that really don’t make sense to me and this is just one example. Say I don’t drink after 8pm, that means, I’ll not have hydrated for almost 12 hours by the time I wake up in the morning – surely, that can’t be good for the body. This article will definitely debunk this myth.

Drink up, hydrate. Sharing a beauty secret here so please don’t say I don’t share.

Oh. A random side note – for those that are on iOS 7, I found this very useful to extending your battery lifespan. I went through the entire list and realized mine were all on the ‘battery draining’ settings. I don’t have some of the fancy animations but heck that. Battery life is more important.

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