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What weekends are for

October 26th, 2014 No Comments »


Weekend brunch doesn’t always have to be done outside. One of the reasons why I would like to own a bigger space, is to accommodate more people for entertaining. I have a lot of brunch ideas but it’s tricky trying to multi-task in a small space, one oven, one stove and without a separate kitchen space so the easiest is making waffles! It’s easier than pancakes because the batter can be made ahead of time and I don’t have to watch the waffles, it’s done in a jiffy and the toppings are endless. I made homemade Thai iced tea ice cream in advance, had fresh fruit, maple syrup, nutella as options. Easy peasey.

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Celebrating mama

May 16th, 2014 3 Comments »


Family, celebrating mama and all the things in life to be grateful for.

Love you mama. Happy mother’s day and hope that every day is always a joyous one for you. Love, your two princesses.

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Merry Christmas from just one

December 25th, 2013 No Comments »

The little drumstick (I’ve many nicknames for him.. muffin, chubbster, fat thighs, friday trouble…) just turned one. This little Christmas joy of ours. He’s such a happy baby and what better way to let him wish everyone here, a Merry Blessed Christmas and may yours be filled with endless love, joy, laughter and good food all around. And for the rest of the year. Love you all. xo ?


Since I hardly post about him.. here’s some photos of him throughout the last year. Grow up well my darling.

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For mama

May 12th, 2013 1 Comment »


To the person who is the most under-appreciated but most sacrificial and probably the only person in the whole world that I think will sacrifice everything including her life for me, happy Mother’s Day. There should be more than just a day to pay tribute. But then again, there shouldn’t be just one day where you treat your mom right.

I surprised my mom with flowers on Friday and I guess that was the best I could do a thousand miles away. My mom has taught me so much I don’t even know where to begin and nothing that I do will ever be able to repay her for all that she has done for me.

Thanks mama. Thank you for teaching me how to manage my finances, that a woman should be financially independent and can work full time and have a kid(s) and that cooking is important for a woman (not to stereotype) as it’s important that you can cook for your kid(s).

Cheers to all the moms out there and happy first Mother’s Day to my sister and all my girlies.

They grow up so quickly

March 8th, 2013 No Comments »

The small ones. They grow up so fast. Heavier and bigger, they get more responsive and demanding. It’s such a lovely process watching them grow up. I sometimes wish my sister lived next door.

Kieran is two months old now. He was in his stroller, next to me during lunch the other day. He was cooing non-stop to get my attention and kept moving his lips as though he wanted to tell me something. Yes I know muffin, you love Ah Yee and Ah Yee loves you very much too! It was absolutely adorbs and I spent a great deal of time carrying him and giving him loads of cuddles. I think he spent too much time staring down at my boobs -_-

Grow up fine little one! I can’t wait till you get bigger and I can play with you more.

Oh. He’s like an exact replica of my sister when she was a baby! A mini-me!

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Loving him

January 26th, 2013 No Comments »

I’m not going to take credit for any of these fantastic quotes here so I want to credit this fab mom upfront here. You see, I spend time thinking of how I can be a good auntie to Kieran. For those that are first time reading this space, he’s not my kid (no no no I’m not ready to have one yet), but my little (slightly over) a month nephew. And probably the only nephew that I will have. And I will be his only (closest) aunt (and Godmother should he gets baptized) since my BIL is an only child and I’m my sister’s only sibling.

This was floating around Facebook and I thought I’ll share it here for those who haven’t read it and also a reference for myself to share with him when he’s older.

20 Things a Mother Should Tell Her Son

1. Play a sport.  It will teach you how to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect authority, work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble.   And maybe even throw or catch.
2. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don’t take something away from her that you can’t give back.
3. Use careful aim when you pee.  Somebody’s got to clean that up, you know.
4. Save money when you’re young because you’re going to need it some day.
5. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom.  Now please go use them.
6. Pray and be a spiritual leader.7. Don’t ever be a bully and don’t ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.

8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.

9. Treat women kindly.  Forever is a long time to live alone and it’s even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.

10. Take pride in your appearance.

11. Be strong and tender at the same time.

12. A woman can do everything that you can do.  This includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3 A.M.  Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.

13. “Yes ma’am” and “yes sir” still go a long way.

14. The reason that they’re called “private parts” is because they’re “private”.  Please do not scratch them in public.

15. Peer pressure is a scary thing.  Be a good leader and others will follow.

16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.

17. Be patriotic.

18. Potty humor isn’t the only thing that’s humorous.

19. Please choose your spouse wisely.  My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.

20. Remember to call your mother because I might be missing you.

Of course this is to a son but well, I’ll help my sister to teach him these 😛 I can’t find a point that I disagree with and every single one makes complete sense. I think it gives a hint of the parenting style that I will have with my future kids if they come along somehow, but for now, I want my nephew to grow up to be someone not perfect, but a man that the people around him will love and appreciate. Being the first grandchild on both sides of the family, I can see him already becoming spoiled.

I am one that firmly believes that no one but the parents are responsible for disciplining and bringing up a kid. You don’t blame the school and its teachers – you blame yourself. If a kid screams and wails in public, it reflects on the parents – the kid doesn’t know best especially if he or she is young, but it’s up to the parents to decide if they want to let him misbehave. Society doesn’t owe your kid or anyone anything. This might not resonate with everyone but you see, when people say I’ve done well, I tell them, I thank my parents for bringing me up well. Privileged as I was, I don’t deny I grew up comfortably, but I was never allowed to feel entitled. I threw tantrums, I talked back at my parents – which teenager or kid doesn’t? But deep down I know for sure what my parents have done for me and if I had a choice to choose my parents, I would choose them all over again without hesitation.

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Merry Christmas and Happy holidays!

December 24th, 2012 2 Comments »

The home has been bustling with excitement as we welcomed our newest member of the family – World, meet Kieran. Kieran, say hullo to everyone!

I think the muffin desperately wanted to celebrate Christmas with everyone so he decided to come out a week earlier than expected! And to share the same birthday as Fur Rug (who turned 12 this year!). It was a full on day of excitement from the time sissy text-ed everyone to say that she was in the hospital as she was having regular contractions. The doctor declared that she was undergoing labor but the entire process progressed very slowly. So the poor girl endured 27.5 hours before Kieran was born naturally to say hi to the world! Kudos to my sis! Though she says it was ‘only’ 7.5 hours of ‘active labor’ since her water bag only broke then -_- Hullo?!! You were having contractions all the while!

Anyway, I can happily say that I’m now officially an aunt and this Ah Yee is completely smitten by the little bub. He has the cutest chubbs cheeks, is tiny at 3.1kg and has managed to capture everyone’s hearts at the first hullo.

More updates and pictures later, meanwhile, Merry Christmas to all and enjoy the few pictures that I snapped at the hospital! xo


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