I’m not going to take credit for any of these fantastic quotes here so I want to credit this fab mom upfront here. You see, I spend time thinking of how I can be a good auntie to Kieran. For those that are first time reading this space, he’s not my kid (no no no I’m not ready to have one yet), but my little (slightly over) a month nephew. And probably the only nephew that I will have. And I will be his only (closest) aunt (and Godmother should he gets baptized) since my BIL is an only child and I’m my sister’s only sibling.
This was floating around Facebook and I thought I’ll share it here for those who haven’t read it and also a reference for myself to share with him when he’s older.
20 Things a Mother Should Tell Her Son
1. Play a sport. It will teach you how to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect authority, work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble. And maybe even throw or catch.
2. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don’t take something away from her that you can’t give back.
3. Use careful aim when you pee. Somebody’s got to clean that up, you know.
4. Save money when you’re young because you’re going to need it some day.
5. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom. Now please go use them.
6. Pray and be a spiritual leader.7. Don’t ever be a bully and don’t ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.
8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.
9. Treat women kindly. Forever is a long time to live alone and it’s even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.
10. Take pride in your appearance.
11. Be strong and tender at the same time.
12. A woman can do everything that you can do. This includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3 A.M. Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.
13. “Yes ma’am” and “yes sir” still go a long way.
14. The reason that they’re called “private parts” is because they’re “private”. Please do not scratch them in public.
15. Peer pressure is a scary thing. Be a good leader and others will follow.
16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.
17. Be patriotic.
18. Potty humor isn’t the only thing that’s humorous.
19. Please choose your spouse wisely. My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.
20. Remember to call your mother because I might be missing you.
Of course this is to a son but well, I’ll help my sister to teach him these 😛 I can’t find a point that I disagree with and every single one makes complete sense. I think it gives a hint of the parenting style that I will have with my future kids if they come along somehow, but for now, I want my nephew to grow up to be someone not perfect, but a man that the people around him will love and appreciate. Being the first grandchild on both sides of the family, I can see him already becoming spoiled.
I am one that firmly believes that no one but the parents are responsible for disciplining and bringing up a kid. You don’t blame the school and its teachers – you blame yourself. If a kid screams and wails in public, it reflects on the parents – the kid doesn’t know best especially if he or she is young, but it’s up to the parents to decide if they want to let him misbehave. Society doesn’t owe your kid or anyone anything. This might not resonate with everyone but you see, when people say I’ve done well, I tell them, I thank my parents for bringing me up well. Privileged as I was, I don’t deny I grew up comfortably, but I was never allowed to feel entitled. I threw tantrums, I talked back at my parents – which teenager or kid doesn’t? But deep down I know for sure what my parents have done for me and if I had a choice to choose my parents, I would choose them all over again without hesitation.
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